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青年園地: Renew Your Gratitude


文/Andy Lee



The guy sitting in his new Porsche spots a private helicopter flying overhead. “I’d love to have a helicopter…”. A woman in a 4×4 Range Rover sees the sports car and thinks, “That’s my dream car…”. On the other side of the road a man in his brand new hatchback sees the Range Rover and says to himself, “I want that off-road car…”.








Then there’s a lady in the next lane sitting in the car that she’s had for over 10 years who says “Look at that new car…!”, eyeing up the hatchback. Weaving in-between them is a young man on a bike. “If only I could afford a car…”. The man waiting at the bus stop notices the biker. “I wish I had a bike…”. Just then a woman emerges on the balcony of her apartment and sees the man at the bus stop. She’s in a wheelchair, “He can go wherever he wants…”.



The above story is taken from a YouTube video that has had over 128 million hits so far. The conclusion? Be grateful for what you have.










When we compare ourselves to those who have more, we lose. When we compare ourselves to those that have less, we win. But should we even be competing with each other in that way at all? What do we seek to gain? What if we simply stopped comparing? What if we didn’t have to see others as less well off to make us feel better? Conversely, what if we stopped desiring and envying what others have? That’s easier said than done, though. It requires a real concerted effort on our part to focus on what we have, rather than on what we don’t.







I helped a good friend build a brand new wardrobe in his brand new house at the weekend. It was a beautiful new build house, solidly built, spacious bedrooms with an en suite master, and a modern and stylishly fitted kitchen. It’s a lot nicer than my house. I began to imagine how nice it would be to live in a house like this….



It’s so easy to let this type of thought wander, with dangerous and far reaching consequences. Hold on! I hear you say – Where’s the harm in a little bit of day-dreaming now and again? What’s wrong with thinking about how nice that house is, or that car? Or their clothes? Phone? Job? Looks?








I guess nothing, if the thoughts stop there. But entertain those thoughts long enough and they will start to take shape, evolving into something else. And this something else isn’t always healthy. So what’s the solution to prevent that from happening? Gratitude. An attitude of gratitude is probably a familiar phrase to you, but let’s change the angle slightly. Being grateful for the things that we have keeps our hearts away from a place of resentment and a constant chasing of the material possessions in this world. But more important than things are the people in our lives. When we intentionally and purposefully focus on being grateful for the people we have in our lives, this not only keeps us feeling blessed, it also has a massive impact on every person we interact with. There are a few friends on Facebook that keep popping up on my newsfeed, where they update their status with daily posts of gratitude for certain people in their life, #365grateful. It’s beautiful and so enriching, seeing people being lifted up for who they are and how much they’re appreciated for who they are and what they do.









Are there people in your life, whether strangers, friends or family that you come across in your daily life that maybe could do with some of your gratitude? The person that serves you at your local supermarket or chippy? The bus driver? Your pastor? Your mum, dad, maybe even your boss?



Maybe you’ve served the same customer for years, listened to the same preacher week after week, become expectant of dinner ready and waiting for you when you get home from work. Routine kills gratitude. You can spot someone who doesn’t have gratitude a mile away. They talk about themselves a lot, have an entitlement mindset (getting upset because their favourite dish at the restaurant ran out), or, as we touched on earlier, are always pursuing more things.










So how many times have you said thank you in the past week, who to and what for? Whether your answer is none (let’s hope not!) or 50, there’s always room for improvement, right? Instead of posting about your feelings or how wonderful your own life is, tag someone you’re thankful for, praise them in front of the world, make them feel like a million dollars! Send a short encouraging message, give them a call. Or just start saying thank you with a genuine, real, ‘I really do appreciate you’ kind of a smile. #grateful






文/Andy Lee